God - Pray. Read from the Bible daily. Live your life for Christ, and joy in the Lord always.
Husband - Be kind to him, appreciate him, and never nag, or try to change him. Read and live the book Fascinating Womanhood.
Children - Praise them for good deeds daily. Be consistent when discipline is needed. Provide steady structure, and a steady diet of love. Have a good attitude - little eyes are watching and learning
A) Your appearance - make sure you look nice. Wear a pretty and modest dress, and head covering. Look your best every day, regardless if you plan to go somewhere or not. Make sure you are healthy - take care of your teeth, hair, skin, and figure.
B) Regular meals for you and your family - three healthy, square meals a day
C) A tidy house - even if you are behind on housework, you can still take five minutes to tidy up each room, which will make your home look clean and inviting.
D) Education and self improvement - homeschool/home educate your children, and don't forget to continue enriching yourself via reading good books. There are many books recommended on this website, and some of them are free. Take advantage of these.
Basic Daily Cleaning Routine
Tidy the house every morning, afternoon, and evening
Dust main living areas
Vacuum main living areas
Keep things picked up and put away
Thursday, September 22, 2016
My First Grocery Haul Video
Wednesday, September 21, 2016
Planner Talk - The Daytimer Malibu, in Desk Size
Tuesday, September 20, 2016
Wednesday, September 14, 2016
Why I Stopped Using Frixion Pens in my Planner
Tuesday, September 13, 2016
A Review of a Compact Bible
Monday, September 12, 2016
Our Daily Bread (and Meat)
Previously, we delved into the wild (and not so wild) world of bread making. This article is about a type of bread that is more nourishing than any bread any person can make.
Without this type of bread, there would be no saving faith, and no spiritual growth. I am referring to the Bread of Life, and the Spiritual Meat of the Christian.
So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. -Romans 10:17
The Christian should obviously eat every day, but we also need our daily spiritual bread. The Word of God is the guidebook for life.
Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path. -Psalm 119:105
The Word of God is POWERFUL:
For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. -Hebrews 4:12
Those who are knowingly living in sin will have an aversion to the Word of God, and things of God:
But if thine eye be evil, thy whole body shall be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in thee be darkness, how great is that darkness! -Matthew 6:23
And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. -John 3:19
Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life. -John 8:12
I am come a light into the world, that whosoever believeth on me should not abide in darkness. -John 12:46
This then is the message which we have heard of him, and declare unto you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all. If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not the truth: But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin. -1 John 1:5-7
We need the Word of God, and the Word made flesh. Jesus is the Word made flesh:
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. - John 1:1
For there are three that bear record in heaven, the Father, the Word, and the Holy Ghost: and these three are one. -1 John 5:7
And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth. -1 John 1:14
Jesus is the Son of God, and is God, just as God's Holy Spirit is also God. We have the Holy Trinity in the creation, right there in the very first three verses of the Holy Bible:
In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth. -Genesis 1:1
"God" = God the Father
And the earth was without form, and void; and darkness was upon the face of the deep. And the Spirit of God moved upon the face of the waters. -Genesis 1:2
"Spirit of God" = The Holy Spirit/The Holy Ghost
And God said, Let there be light: and there was light. -Genesis 1:3
"God said" = The Word of God - Jesus is the Word of God made flesh.
God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit are all the One, Triune God. Jesus was born the Son of God, but is God. Jesus Christ is God in the flesh:
And without controversy great is the mystery of godliness: God was manifest in the flesh, justified in the Spirit, seen of angels, preached unto the Gentiles, believed on in the world, received up into glory. -1 Timothy 3:16
Along with having received Jesus Christ, one also needs to partake of the written Word of God, which is the Holy Bible. In Ephesians chapter six, we learn about the spiritual armor the Christian is given. Each part of the armor is for defense, but one thing is given for offense. The Bible. It is our Sword of the Spirit:
And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. -Ephesians 6:17
Are you wearing the helmet of salvation? Are you wielding the Sword of the Spirit?
While we partake physically of our daily bread, let us not forget to also partake daily of our spiritual bread.
Jesus is the Bread of Life:
I am that bread of life. -John 6:48
Peter partook of this Bread of Life - faith in Christ:
Then Simon Peter answered him, Lord, to whom shall we go? thou hast the words of eternal life. And we believe and are sure that thou art that Christ, the Son of the living God. -John 6:68-69
Jesus told us how to partake of this Bread of Life, also biblically referred to as "meat:"
Labour not for the meat which perisheth, but for that meat which endureth unto everlasting life, which the Son of man shall give unto you: for him hath God the Father sealed. Then said they unto him, What shall we do, that we might work the works of God? Jesus answered and said unto them, This is the work of God, that ye believe on him whom he hath sent. -John 6:27-29
Faith in Christ is our spiritual bread and meat. In addition to faith in Christ, we also have the below spiritual meat:
The Bible is milk and meat:
Wherefore laying aside all malice, and all guile, and hypocrisies, and envies, and all evil speakings, As newborn babes, desire the sincere milk of the word, that ye may grow thereby -1 Peter 2:1-2
For when for the time ye ought to be teachers, ye have need that one teach you again which be the first principles of the oracles of God; and are become such as have need of milk, and not of strong meat. For every one that useth milk is unskilful in the word of righteousness: for he is a babe. But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil. -Hebrews 5:12-14
While the milk of the Word is a great place to start, may we partake daily of the Meat of the Word, which is far better.
Friday, September 9, 2016
What I Ate Yesterday - A Video Food Log, of Sorts...
Thursday, September 8, 2016
Wednesday, September 7, 2016
The Zondervan King James Study Bible
Tuesday, September 6, 2016
Wild Bread and Other Fun
What homemaker's kitchen is complete without baking? For many, cookies, pastries, and cakes come to mind. While these are fun treats, they aren't usually the healthiest, and not a basic staple in the everyday diet. Something that is a basic staple, is bread.
If you have the land, you may want to grow your own grain, and process it yourself, into flour. Other people prefer to buy their grains in bulk, and then grind it with their own electric or hand grinder. Still, others keep it simple, and just run down to the store, and buy flour. Don't feel bad if you buy your flour at the store. There is nothing wrong with that. What matters is what you do with that flour.
I know there are some people out there who really want to experience a more complete from scratch bread. Perhaps for some of them, buying bulk grain and grinding it will work, but for others, they want to take it further. If you are one of these people, but you are unable to grow your own grain at the time, don't despair, nature may have the answer for you.
There is likely many things growing in the wild near you, which you can use to make into earthy, natural breads. Below is just a peek into the world of wild breads:
If you have an oak tree, or one grows in a park near you, you can make acorn bread. Acorns from all types of oak trees are edible. If you are lucky to get acorns from a white oak, you won't have to soak or process them as much. If you have a red oak, or are not sure that type of oak, then make sure you follow all of the processing directions below:
1. Pick a lot of acorns.
2. Shell them. You can use a rock about the size of your fist, and pound the acorns open.
3. Pound the acorn meat into small pieces.
4. Bring two large pots of water to a boil, at the same time. In one of the pots, put in all the acorn meat. Boil for ten minutes, and then remove the acorn meat to the other pot of boiling water, and pour out the brown water from the first pot. Rinse the first pot, and then put in fresh water, and bring it back to a boil. Meanwhile, let the acorn meat boil in the second pot for ten minutes, and then switch them to the first boiling pot, while you change out the water, and bring that pot back to a boil. The acorns should be boiled a total of 40 minutes, switching pots and changing out water every ten minutes. It is important that when you switch the acorn meat to the next pot, that the water is boiling before you put the meat in. If the water is cold, it will lock in a bitter taste.
5. Lay the acorn meats onto a clean towel, and let them dry. Then, crush (or use a blender/food processor) them into powder. You now have Acorn Flour.
Note: If you use only Acorn Flour, without mixing with another flour, you will get a crumbly bread. If you don't want the bread to be so crumbly, then consider using another type of flour, with gluten in it, with the acorn flour in the bread. If you want to make another wild flour to compliment the acorn flour, you can make cattail flour - which contains gluten, and works perfectly in acorn bread. Here's how to make cattail flour:
1. From early fall to spring, you can go out and collect the roots from cattail plants.
2. Wash and peel the roots.
3. In a bowl of water, hold a root under the water, and break it up into several small pieces. Do this in the same large bowl of water, with each root. The starchy, glutinous flour will begin to separate from the fibers.
4. Keep breaking up the roots, until all the fibers are separated. Continue doing this under the water in a bowl, not above the water.
5. Remove the fibers and throw them away, or store them for a future use. There will be a wet flour slurry in the bottom of the bowl. Carefully pour off the excess water, until you only have a wet slurry left in the bottom of the bowl.
6. Spread the slurry on a clean towel, and lay it out in the sun to dry. Now you have cattail flour.
And now... The Recipe
- 1 cup acorn flour
- 1 cup cattail flour (or other flour with gluten)
- 2 Tablespoons baking powder
- 1/2 teaspoon sea salt
- 3 Tablespoons of honey, agave nectar, or pure maple syrup
- 2 omega three eggs (or regular) beaten
- 3/4 cup whole milk
- 3 tablespoons olive, grape seed, or coconut oil
BASIC ACORN BREAD
1. Mix all of the ingredients together
2. Pour into a greased loaf pan
3. Bake at 400 degrees Fahrenheit for 30 minutes
Perhaps you grow your own grain, and/or grind your own grain, or perhaps you buy your flour from the store. Perhaps you have never made bread, or you have, and are looking for a new recipe. The below recipes are for you...
- 3-5 cups flour of your choice (white, wheat, or spelt - I suggest spelt)
- 1 and 1/4 cups of water
- 1/2 teaspoon sea salt
- 2 and 1/4 teaspoons active dry yeast
- Two tablespoons honey
- 1 tablespoon olive oil
LET'S MAKE BASIC BREAD
1. Mix all of the above together, except for the flour.
2. Start mixing in the flour. Keep adding flour, until the mixture becomes a sticky dough.
3. Coat your hands with olive oil, and knead the dough for ten minutes. You can knead the dough in the bowl. Just push it down, roll it over, turn the bowl a quarter turn, push the dough down, roll it over, turn the bowl a quarter turn, etc.
4. Place the kneaded dough into a greased loaf pan. Set a clean towel over the top, and leave it to rise for one hour.
5. Bake the risen dough at 350 degrees for 45-50 minutes.
A Super Easy, Healthy, and Delicious Bread
This may very well be the easiest bread you'll ever make, and it looks and tastes like it took hours of careful preparation and labor...
1) In a mixing bowl, mix together 1.5 cups warm water, 1/4 teaspoon active dry yeast, half teaspoon sea salt, 3 1/4 cups white, wheat, or spelt flour.
2) Don't knead the sticky mixture, just mix it, but not too well, just barely enough. Leave it straggly looking. Then, put the sticky dough mixture into a well-buttered dutch oven pot, or a round casserole baking dish. Cover it over with a clean towel, and leave it alone to rise for several hours. I like to do this before bed, so that the rising is done when I awake in the morning.
3) The next morning, you will have a fully risen round loaf of bread dough, with a slightly sour-like aroma, as it has started becoming a sourdough, which is very healthy, and makes for a great flavored bread, once baked. Bake the bread, uncovered, for 50 minutes in a heated 350 degree oven.
All done. This bread is as easy as 1-2-3. You mix, rise, bake, and done.
If you make a sourdough starter, then you will not have to buy active dry yeast anymore. You'll save money, and sourdough bread is much healthier for you.
To make a starter, you only need two ingredients - flour, and water. Use a flour such as white, wheat, spelt, or rye. The water should be spring water, or very filtered. Mix a cup of water and a cup of flour. Leave this batter in a container in a dark area of your counter or in a cabinet. Leave it alone for a day.
Then, add another cup of flour and another cup of water. Mix well. Leave it alone for another day. Add another cup of flour, and another cup of water. Don't forget to mix well. Keep doing this process for several days, and you within a week or so you'll have sourdough starter. It will smell sour or beer-like, and should have little bubbles on it from time to time. Use some to make bread, and keep the unused portion in the fridge, in a container with a small hole in the lid. Store in thick plastic, pottery, or glass, but not in metal. Feed the starter each week, by mixing in equal parts of flour and water.
For a fabulous sourdough bread recipe, with pictures to help you, click here.
Flour and Water Bread
You can make a fully risen loaf of bread, using nothing but flour and water. Truly.
1. Grab some of your sourdough starter (straight from the fridge, or warm from the counter is fine). Remember, sourdough starter is made just from flour and water.
2. In a bowl, put in one cup of your starter, and then add in 1 and 1/4 cups of water. Mix.
3. Start adding in flour, and mixing, until the mixture turns into a sticky dough. Form the sticky dough into a ball, and place it on a baking sheet, or cookie sheet. Let it rise for about a dozen hours. If your starter leavens quickly (the older the starter, the better it does) then you can let it rise for only seven hours or so.
4. Bake at 350 degrees for 50 minutes.
Another Delicious Sourdough Bread
This recipe can be made with white, wheat, or spelt flour. I personally suggest spelt or wheat.
- one cup of sourdough starter (straight from the fridge, or warm from the counter is fine)
- 1 and 1/4 cups water
- 1 tablespoon olive oil
- 1/2 teaspoon sea salt
- 1/4 cup honey
- 1 cup sourdough starter
- 3-5 cups of flour
MAKE THIS BREAD
1. Mix all of the above ingredients together, except for the flour
2. Mix in flour, and keep adding more, until the mixture forms into a very thick, sticky batter, or almost into a dough.
3. You don't have to knead. Put the mixture into a greased loaf pan.
4. Let it rise for 7-12 hours. If it is fully risen (about double in bulk) by 7 hours, then you can bake it. Else, give it more time. The older the starter, the quicker the bread will rise, and the more delicious it will be.
5. Bake at 350 degrees for 45-50 minutes.
Other Things to Bake
From time to time, and for special occasions, you'll probably want to make cookies and cakes. Many cookie recipes do well with using wheat flour in the place of white flour. This is especially true of traditional chocolate chip cookies. Also, many people use homemade cattail flour in their cookies, and they say it's the only way to go.
Granola is another healthy staple that can be made on a regular basis. Even though this article is about baking, let me first introduce you to raw granola, and then to baked.
How to Make Raw Granola
This is a great granola to make if you are in a hurry, or if you want something different.
To make this granola - wing it. Throw a lot of raw old fashioned oats into a bowl, then pour in some honey, sliced almonds, raisins, shredded coconut, and a generous amount of peanut butter, or almond butter. Mix it all together. If the mixture is too wet, add more oats. If it is too dry, put in a bit more nut butter and/or honey. It should be very clumpy. This raw granola is great to eat by itself, or with milk, like cereal.
Delicious Baked Granola
In a very large bowl, mix together all of the following: 8 cups of oats, 4 teaspoons ground cinnamon, a pinch of sea salt, 1/2 cup of coconut oil, 1 cup of honey, 4 teaspoons of pure vanilla extract.
Spread the mixture in a large roasting pan (or any baking pan large enough to really spread this around) and bake at 325 degrees for 25 minutes. Take the mixture out of the oven every five to ten minutes to mix it, so that it bakes evenly and doesn't burn.
Then, transfer the mixture back to your very large bowl, and mix in: 3 cups of raisins, 1 cup of shredded coconut, and a good handful or two of sliced almonds. Let the granola cool completely, then store it in a sealed container on the counter or in a cabinet. This makes a fabulous cereal with milk.
Monday, September 5, 2016
Christian Simplicity and Survival
This is a series that is still being added to, so check back regularly for new content, which will be linked below...
Christian Simplicity and Survival - Biblical Roles
The Christian homemaker needs Jesus Christ in her heart, and the Bible at the center of her family. Further, the Christian homemaker needs to live within the role that God has set for her. The Christian man needs to live within the role that God has set for him.
How to Become a Christian
First, you must realize that you are a sinner. Everyone is. Even Mary, the chosen vessel to give birth to Jesus was a sinner, and in need of a Saviour. This is why she said:
"And Mary said, My soul doth magnify the Lord, And my spirit hath rejoiced in God my Saviour." -Luke 1:46-47
Mary followed the Levitical law of bringing a sacrifice to the temple for her sins:
"And when eight days were accomplished for the circumcising of the child, his name was called Jesus, which was so named of the angel before he was conceived in the womb. And when the days of her purification according to the law of Moses were accomplished, they brought him to Jerusalem, to present him to the Lord; (As it is written in the law of the Lord, Every male that openeth the womb shall be called holy to the Lord;) And to offer a sacrifice according to that which is said in the law of the Lord, A pair of turtledoves, or two young pigeons." -Luke 2:21-24
Here is the law that Mary was obeying, for her sins:
"And if she be not able to bring a lamb, then she shall bring two turtles, or two young pigeons; the one for the burnt offering, and the other for a sin offering: and the priest shall make an atonement for her, and she shall be clean." -Leviticus 12:8
Except for Jesus, who is God, all people are sinners:
"For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God" -Romans 3:23
This means Mary had sinned, and this means that you and I have sinned, as well.
This is why Jesus came to the earth:
"For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord." -Romans 6:23
Jesus died in our place, to pay the wages for our sins for us. He is the Lamb of God; our Sacrifice, to atone for our sins. This is a gift of God to us - to those who will receive it:
"That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed." -Romans 10:9-11
That's it. Just realize you are a sinner, and accept the gift of Christ dying on the cross to pay for your sins. That, and that alone saves you. If you chose to accept this free gift of salvation, simply pray right where you are, right now, and tell God that you accept Jesus' death on the cross to pay for your sins, and invite Jesus to be the Lord of your life:
"Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me." -Revelation 3:20
Now That You're Saved...
Once you have received Jesus Christ, you are saved - period. Next, you'll want to learn how to live out the life that God has in store for you. He has a plan for all of His children, and when we follow that plan, He blesses us abundantly, because He loves us so much. Start by reading the Gospel of John in a King James Bible. After that, flip over to the book of Romans, and read that next. These two books give you the basic Gospel, and doctrines for Christian living.
Find a good, Bible believing church. I suggest you try to find a good home church, or a Bible-following Family Integrated or Fundamental Baptist church. You can look online for directories for home churches, Family Integrated Churches, and Independent, Fundamental, Baptist churches. Understand that Christians are THE church, not some building with a sign on it, that says "church." WE are the temple of the Holy Spirit, but going to "a church" is a great way to find other Christians, and meet more brothers and sisters in Christ, etc.
Next, get baptized. Baptism doesn't save you, but it is a public profession of your faith. A Believer's Baptism is the only Scriptural baptism. It is to take place some time after you've been saved. If you were baptized as an infant, or some time before your salvation, then in God's eyes that was not a real baptism. It was you simply getting wet. Further, your Believer's Baptism should be a full immersion baptism. When you are under the water, that symbolizes you dying to your old self. When you come up out of the water, that symbolizes you being born again as a new creature in Christ.
Read four or more chapters from the Bible, every day. Don't just read the Word, LIVE IT. An apple tree bears apples, and a Christian tree is supposed to bear Christian fruits. When a person is a Christian, people should be able to tell. Read the Bible, and learn the role God has for you, and pray to Him to reveal to you His will for your life.
Meanwhile, below is a bit about Husband, Children, and Wife roles, from the Bible:
The Husband's Role
The husband is the head of the family:
"For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body." -Ephesians 5:23
Husbands are to love their wives as Christ loves the church. Husbands who love their wives love themselves:
"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself." -Ephesians 5:25-28
Men are given more muscle mass than women, because men are the stronger of the two. This is because men are supposed to do the hard work and toil, while women are supposed to keep the home, and take care of the meals, etc. The wife is the weaker vessel, and husbands are to keep that in mind, and treat them gently. Further, if a husband mistreats his wife, then his prayers will be hindered:
"Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered." -1 Peter 3:7
Husbands are not to be bitter towards their wives:
"Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them." -Colossians 3:19
Fathers are not to overly discourage, or overly anger their children:
"Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged." -Colossians 3:21
The wife should not have to earn money to take care of the family. This is the husband's job. A man who does not provide for his family is worse than an infidel:
"But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel." -1 Timothy 5:8
From the above Scriptures, we see that the husband's role is:
- To love his wife as Christ loves the church
- To be the head of the family
- To be the provider for the family
- To be gentle, and not bitter towards his wife, and not to discourage his children
The Children's Role
Children are to obey and honor their parents:
"Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee." -Exodus 20:12
"Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee." -Deuteronomy 5:16
"Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth." -Ephesians 6:1-3
Parents are to train up their children in the Lord:
"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." -Proverbs 22:6
Mothers, watch your children, and don't leave them to themselves:
"The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame." -Proverbs 29:15
How many children are acting up, and misbehaving, because they are lacking proper training and nurturing from their mothers? Moms should not be pawning off their children to various public places, or people, or kicking them out the door to run the neighborhood. Mothers should be with their children, teaching them, training them, and bringing them up in the Lord.
Fathers, as the head of the family, are to raise their children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord:
"And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord." -Ephesians 6:4
Likewise, fathers are to nurture their children in the Lord. Often, what children see in their earthy dads can play a big part on how they picture God, and their relationship to Him.
The Wife's Role
In the eyes of the Lord, and in the Gospel, the husband and wife are equal:
"For ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus. For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus." -Galatians 3:26-28
Husbands and wives simply have different roles. While part of the role of the husband is to be the head of the household, part of the role of the wife is to submit to her husband’s authority:
"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing." -Ephesians 5:22-24
Wives are to be discreet and chaste. They are to be sober (in mind and body), to love their husbands and children, to obey their husbands, be good, AND are to be keepers at home. Wives who don't follow this are considered as having blasphemed the Word of God(!):
"That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed." -Titus 2:4-5
Wives are not to nag their husbands:
"A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike." -Proverbs 27:15
"It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house." -Proverbs 21:9
Wives are not to talk badly about their husbands to others. Their husband's hearts should be able to fully trust them. She should also be frugal with the money he earns:
"The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil." -Proverbs 31:11
If the husband is an unbeliever, or is a believer, but is not following the Word of God, then the wife is not to push him, but simply to have chaste conversation (in word and deed), coupled with fear (fear here means humble reverence and respect). The wife is to take the issue to God in prayer, and continue to honor and submit to her husband in the Lord"
"Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear." -1 Peter 3:1-2
While the wife should strive to be attractive, and even a bit alluring to her husband, she needs to also remember to be modest in clothing, behaviour, appearance, and conversation:
"Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price." -1 Peter 3:3-4
"In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works." -1 Timothy 2:9-10
While the wife has the responsibility to stay attractive for and to her husband, she needs to do so with discretion:
"As a jewel of gold in a swine's snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion." -Proverbs 11:22
Wives are to learn in silence in the church. This is to show that she is willingly under the submission of her husband:
"Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence." -1 Timothy 2:11-12
"Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience as also saith the law. And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church." -1 Corinthians 14:34-35
Notice the two above Scriptures say women are to learn in silence in the church. No where does the Bible say women can't teach the Bible. In fact, we see women serving the church, such as Phebe, and teaching the Bible to both men and women, such as Priscilla. Further, women can speak in the church, but not when learning is supposed to be occurring. I wrote a whole article on this, along with plenty of Scriptures. You can read that article click here.
The wife is to stay at home, and take care of her family, not leave the house to work a job, etc:
"To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. -Titus 2:5
"She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness." -Proverbs 31:27
"I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully." -1 Timothy 5:14
A Summary of the Wife's Duties
- While the husband and wife are equal in person, they have different roles. The wife is to follow the role that God has laid out for her, and not try to step into the man's role. In the sphere of familial authority, the husband is the head of the wife, just as God is the head of Christ. God and Christ are equal, but have different roles, and the same is for the husband and wife.
- The husband is the head and leader of the family. The wife is to submit to his headship and authority
- The wife is to be sober (in mind and body), to love her husband and children, to be discreet and chaste, to obey her husband, and to be a keeper at home. Wives who disobey these things are blaspheming the Word of God, as per Titus 2:4-5
- The wife is to stay home, and the husband is to provide for his family. See above, and also see husband's role
- Wives are not to nag their husbands
- Wives are not to talk down or badly to and about their husbands
- Wives are to be frugal with the money their husbands earn
- If the husband is not following the Word of God, the wife is still to submit to him, but to be a good example to him, via her conversation and actions. She is to continue to revere and respect him
- While the wife should continue to be attractive to her husband, she must do so with discretion and modesty
- The wife is to learn in silence in the church, showing that she is under the headship of her husband. He is the spokesperson for the family.
After you've read the Gospel of John, go on to read Acts, and then Romans. These three books will bring you through the Gospel, the early church, and basic Christian doctrine. After you've read these three, then turn to the beginning of the New Testament, and read it all the way through. After that, read both the Old and New Testaments.
You should also follow the Lord and get baptized in water. A Believer's Baptism doesn't save you. Only faith in Christ saves you. A Believer's Baptism is an outward showing of your salvation. It symbolizes you being born again. When you are lowered under the water, it shows you dying to your old self, and when you are raised up out of the water, it symbolizes you being born again, as a new creature in Christ. This is called a Believer's Baptism, because, according to the Bible, a person is supposed to get baptized after they have believed on Christ. Anyone who was "baptized" before having faith in Christ just got wet - nothing more. You don't need to find a church to get baptized in. Any born again Christian can baptize you in any acceptable body of water - even a public swimming pool.
Find or start a good home church. Here is more information on Home Church, and why you should home church, or find one to join - HouseChurch.org.
Immerse yourself in the Bible. The Bible is God's love letter to you. It is also your Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth.